GI Jane Finances

February 21, 2010

Marriage and Money

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , — gijanefinances @ 5:24 pm

Last night, I watched the Suze Orman Valentine’s day podcast.  Even though I do not follow her concepts anymore, especially about FICO scores and being OK with good debt (student loans, mortgage and etc…), since she started me on my financial journey…I still watch her show.  She had a couple who was married, divorced and wanted to marry again.  It would be her third time around and the fourth for the guy.  She only earned $25k to his $75k.  He wanted her to sign a prenuptial again–it was a bone of contention the last time they were married.  He is responsible with money and she is not.  Of course, she wanted to remarry just for sake of survival.  Suze recommended they slow down and live together first for a year under a more equitable money system before they marry again.  I did not agree in regards to living together.  But they do need to slow down.

Then she took a call from a guy whose wife wanted him to upgrade her ring.  Suze vehemently denied the upgrade as it would deplete their emergency fund.  I completely agree with that.  I had a friend who was embarrassed by her engagement ring and made him buy a better one.  I am not a ring person.  But if a guy bought me a ring, unless it looked straight out of a cracker jack box, I would cherish it. 

I am not a very swept away kind of person.  A regular money talk with your SO that you may plan on spending your life together is critical.  My friend just got married on New Year’s eve at a very low key BBQ.  It probably cost $100.  She is like my money “idol.”  Never had any debt.  Excellent career.  Tremendous savings.  She spent about 3 1/2 years vetting the guy–who happens to be a colonel.  But I see her as a dream come true for a man who won’t feel emasculated by a successful woman. 

However, I see very much the opposite in the military, especially in Korea.  Lots of military men marry “juicy” girls or random locals.  There are some military to military couples.  It is usually the exception rather than the norm.  Being the primary breadwinner equals power in relationships.  Nevertheless, my friends and even my wonderful Korean realtor tell me that I should be married.  I agree, but with due diligence!

GI Jane

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4 Comments »

  1. No point in rushing into marriage. That 3rd time woman with the 4th time guy is really a sign that they’re both impulsive.

    As for me, I don’t even know if I ever want to get hitched, but that doesn’t mean I’m not committed to BF.

    I also don’t see the point in wasting money on a big party for one day.. or wearing a HUGE ring made out of essentially what is readily available everywhere — diamonds aren’t rare — it’s just that the supply is being controlled.

    Comment by FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — February 21, 2010 @ 11:10 pm

    • Yeah, I really do not think spending tons of money for one day is gonna happen for me. I can put on a nice party for about $1k. 🙂 Just does not make sense.

      Comment by gijanefinances — February 22, 2010 @ 6:42 am

  2. I saw that episode of Suze Orman too and was a little taken aback at how arrogant the guy seemed. He’s making $75k/year, yet he acted like she was some kind of golddigger. He’d need a few more zeros on that income to be a candidate as a sugar daddy. 🙂

    In the end, I think Suze had the guy giving the woman $3k/month, and the woman paying 25% of the mortgage, utilities and other expenses. This guy wasn’t too bright. I think he’ll get home and realize he’d agreed to something extremely out of whack.

    Comment by Jack — February 22, 2010 @ 5:59 am

    • lol at the prenuptial. Unless he has about $3M in assets that we do not know about. Yeah, he was stupid to nod to giving her $3k a month. I think they need financial peace university.

      Comment by gijanefinances — February 22, 2010 @ 6:44 am


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