GI Jane Finances

November 22, 2010

Bah Humbug, almost

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , , — gijanefinances @ 9:20 pm

That was how I felt over the weekend when my longtime childhood friend sent me her gift list.  I have spoken to her about three times this year.  She sent me my Xmas gift in April of this year! 

In her email: “Last year after considering the time, effort and resources everybody spends on purchasing gifts, I thought why not be certain of the fruits of your labor. And one of the easiest ways to be sure of getting anybody what they want, is to ask them what they want (ground breaking, right).”  On her list: Burberry perfume, Marc Jacobs pocketbook, Tory Burch flats, etc…

Mind you one year she sent baby wipes and baby powder as gifts to everyone.  She was getting herself back on her feet, so we were fine with it.  The year she was laid off, we all still gave her gifts and told her do not worry about giving us anything.  Therefore, she has a reputation for being a “bad gift” giver.  I decided to remove her from my list this year because she does not make the effort to invest in this friendship anymore.  Other people have–and I rather spend my money on them than to continue to reward longevity.  She sent her list out just in time for her birthday and Xmas while neglecting other people’s birthdays and Xmas.    I feel if you have regular contact with people, you know what they want or even want to ask for their requests through semi-regular interaction.

And just when I was going to write off gift giving this year after dealing with her, something awesome happened.  Today, I had an office Thanksgiving luncheon and invited my Korean counterpart/civic leaders.   

My co-workers surprised me with a gorgeous gift basket with big scented candle, candle holders, fruit, soap and towels.  I was really shocked and touched by that.  My counterpart showed up with a beautifully wrapped in gold cloth rice cake basket and sweets.  It really looked too pretty to eat. 

My good neighbors gave me a Korean bell and drum.  I plan to use both as decoration my office. 

Tomorrow, I will going to Seoul for another party for more gifts and good food.  I also plan on having my first house party on Thanksgiving day.   It is funny when I bought liquor, I maxed my limit for the month since alcohol is rationed on base!  I opted for a 6-pack of Heineken, Red Stripe, Miller Genuine Draft and two bottles of wine.

It looks like it will be a good week.  Happy Thanksgiving!

GI Jane



  1. Some people are incredible in their nerve. I never expect anything from anyone because I don’t give anything to anyone. I do dinners and coffees when I am in town, but if I don’t reciprocate, how will I expect them to do the same?

    What shocked me the most:

    On her list: Burberry perfume, Marc Jacobs pocketbook, Tory Burch flats, etc…

    It isn’t like she’s asking for diapers and FOOD here. These are just self indulgences that I can’t even afford for myself. Why would I buy it for someone else?

    Gosh. The nerve.

    Comment by FB @ — November 23, 2010 @ 12:47 am

    • I know right! She has really become brazen and very self-absorbed. I told her why don’t you send me a Louis Vuitton purse while we are at it?!

      Comment by gijanefinances — November 23, 2010 @ 6:08 am

  2. Oh and the gift baskets were so sweet. What a kind gesture!

    Comment by FB @ — November 23, 2010 @ 12:47 am

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